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About two years ago, I decided to take responsability for my actions and their consequences. It has always been and it is always a never-ending discovery.
I started to discover myself and, to my surprise, at the same time I understood that between me and the other (whoever he/she may be) there´s no separation; in other words, you and I are one! By knowing that and by being one, there were no limits anymore, everything became possible, LIFE became stronger, more present, interesting and challenging.
Always? No! I still have, and I´ll always have, to face everything that conditions me, my small personal story, my small traumas, the gender culture, the Portuguese/African culture… Anyway, so many artificial layers to undress. But I´m dropping old habits and conditionings, one by one, facing them time after time, until I understand that nervous twitch, that fear, that response, is not me, until I understand I´m becoming freer and freer.
In order to transform myself (which is an imperative and a consequence of taking responsability for ALL my choices), I meditate every day and, therefore, I recognize in myself the essence of LIFE, which is common to us all and which is not perceptible or understood by the mind.
The other spiritual practice (which I feel is becoming more and more important) is belonging to a men´s group where, all together, without any defense, we put all our problems, all our challenges, all our fears… on the table, and we realize the impersonality of everything that is in our mind. We can be talking about money, relationships, sex, independence, family… I experience no other context in which there is such clarity, such straightforwardness, such humility, such vulnerability, where a group of people is willing to take so many risks. What is said by one of us always resonates in the heart of the others. I feel that, as a group, we have a maturity which I never thought it would be possible to see in a person or in a group.
In two years of involvement, there has not been any subject or any point of view, expressed by each and every one of these men, which hasn´t made me grow. The path to a spiritual growth is quite individual but, paradoxically, it can´t be done alone.
Today I am a very different man than I was two years ago, mostly because I have a strong intention to change myself, to be a better man, to do something in the world, to merge with LIFE.
On the other hand, I started to accept everything that life gives me in a more positive, but also more challenging way.
One of the most precious gifts that LIFE put in my way was the men’s group of the Awakened Life Project.